Coaching and Care for Queer, Kinky & Ethically Non-monogamous folks.
Forget just surviving, let’s thrive in spite of it.
Whatever delicious blend of gender, experience of attraction, orientation, relationship style, and or erotic play you have going on- I want to give you tools to manage whatever is getting in the way of you living your most authentic life and doing it in a way that feels right to you.
Let’s work out the shame / trauma / anxiety / insecurity / internalized phobias you are carrying so you can get to know your most authentic self, create healthy relationships rooted in security, and explore your desires unapologetically.
Skills Coaching
Sometimes things can get so big they completely overwhelm us, our lives- even the people we love. (Shit, consider the timeline we are living in). Sometimes these things are foggy, confusing or straight up terrifying. And where the hell do you even start?
Let’s get grounded, dig into it and learn some skills to manage difficult emotions.
T4T, babee
I’m with you, standing next to you as family.
If you need someone to help you explore gender, to give you tools and encourage you to play/explore there, if you need a place to plan and process how to be safe and where to go from here- I got you.
Kink Coaching
I know what healthy, ethical and sustainable relationships of all configurations can look like and that they do factually exist.
I know the ins and outs of consensual power exchange and the non-pathological reasons engaging in kink or BDSM lights you up and helps you connect. I’m never going to assume these are “your problem” but I am going to make lot’s of sex jokes.
Working with me —
I am not the right helper for everyone and I don’t really want to be.
I am fully virtual outside of occasional in person trainings, I curse like a sailor, am irreverent with a dark sense of humor, am kind but direct — I’m not going to sugar coat anything but I’m also never going to judge you and most importantly I am not here to fragilize you or enable you. I genuinely care about all of my people and to me that means giving you the tools to be your own therapist and asking/expecting you to use them outside of our work together. You have to work those muscles to build them up.
Nothing is binary, myself included — I will laugh with you often, I’ll be playful and authentic and I will be so excited to validate tf out of the things that make you you.